For those who think CPS is the answer:
My brother, less than a month from turning 16, has been living with me for nearly the past month. There were allegations of abuse. I'm a mandated reporter. I had to tell CPS. The woman abused her four oldest children for years, CPS was involved with us as well, but because there were no marks left nothing was done, at least not until she abandoned us.
He has a scar from being hit, but he never told anyone until recently. One of my other brothers, the one who moved here, said he knew there was abuse going on, but didn't tell anyone. He, like me, lived through it as well and I guess he just thought nothing would happen if he told. She calls him names, she admitted that to me. His PSR has it noted that she did that as well because she did it in front of him. He failed every class from the first half of the school year - he had passed a couple, but failed due to absences, partly due to her keeping him home to help her and partly due to being tired in the morning after she kept him up to help her.
He struggles in school with some concepts and she never sought help for him after elementary school. Her first thought was to get him into a status offender program - a program for deliquents -because he called her "lazy" (I admit, not respectful, but honest, she does nothing and never really has. Her life consists of moping in her bedroom)... the aforementioned could be related to the fact that she is addicted to pain medication due to the number of surgeries she's had.
The PSR has called CPS, the doctor has called CPS. He has refused to go to her house a few times (I apparently have to let him to show I'm "working with her and cooperating and doing what is best for him"). She smokes in the house nonstop, eats crap (he didn't gain weight for years and his doctor was concerned) and has COPD and is a diabetic. She's also had multiple suicide attempts and has been hospitalized a few times for those.
The fact that her "boyfriend" is a married man who comes down once a month and she involved this man with my brother is just disgusting so I'm putting it in here.
I got a call today from the worker who said she doesn't know that she has enough to keep him out. Because there are no recent marks. Forget the rest of it that is going on.
She said she talked to my mother and told her not to try to force brother to come back right now, wait until the investigation is over and we'll talk. This is why my mother is currently being nice - she always pours on the sugar when she's in trouble for something. Social worker said mother is willing to have a "family meeting" and work out the issues she has with me - let me digress to say "what the hell?!" to that since she is the one who has spent her life hurting her children and focusing on herself and men and painkillers and painting everyone else as the bad guy who is out to get her -
Point is, again - CPS won't do much unless the kid is dang near dead, it seems.
Your SKs are failing and mom wont' do anything? Neither will CPS.
Your SKs mom is asleep half the day and when she is awake she berating the child? CPS can't do anything.
The kid was hit? No big deal, especially if the mother says she won't do it again.
Yes, I'm frustrated right now. This is hard on everyone, but having lived through one of these investigations and knowing that nothing was done to help the four of us, I'm angry at the fact that it might happen again. He's not a perfect angel, but he does need structure and guidance and help and someone who cares that he's around for more than his ability to make them a sandwich as well as being able to live without being called names and hit.