When is appropriate to have the "I love you and I'm not going anywhere" talk?
My husband has a 6 and 9 year old (both girls). 9 year old is great, 6 year old the other day kicked me because she wanted me to go play with her while I was making dinner. I told her in a firm voice that kicking me was 'rude and do not kick me again'. I did this only after she had punched me in the butt about 20 times, which I didn't mind but the kick was very agressive and almost knocked me over.
After that she was upset and it obviously hurt her feelings. She drew a picture on her white board that said Before: a pic of herself, dad and her sister and After: just me and her dad. Dad and I felt really bad and dad told her immediately that her picture was incorrect and that he's not going anywhere.
I feel that perhaps I should have some sort of talk with her also. I want her to know that I love her dad (she hears us say i love you back and forth all the time) and being part of her family. I want her to feel secure in our relationship and family atmosphere.
The relationship with me and the 6 year old has fluctuated between "i love you" and "i like you a lot" and she even kisses me on the cheek and I return the kisses. She always wants my attention and for me to play with her so I try to watch movies, color with her and involve her in my cooking at times.
What kind of talk should we have, if any at all?