My cousin has not made the best life choices. She has a 4 year old daughter that our other cousin is now raising and will be adopting. In February she had another daughter, who was taken by CPS. She may not ever get this daughter back either.
Today she messaged me on facebook and asked if DH and I would take temporary custody of the baby.
This baby HAS been exposed to drugs. Heroin is what sent her into labor, which is the reason that CPS has the baby now. We are the only option other than the baby going into foster care.
We have 4 children in this home. SD is 13 and MDD 7 they both have special needs, DS is 11, and YDD is 5 (6 next month). We don't technically have the room, but could make it work. The baby would qualify for assistance through the state (medical, and about $300 a month cash, which would cover the cost of her needs if we needed to get that).
She says it'll be temporary custody, but she hasn't had custody of her older daughter since June of 2010 (when the baby was 9 months old). So, in reality there's a good 90% chance this will turn into a forever situation where we'd be adopting the baby.
No one else could even consider taking this baby in.
DH does NOT like this cousin, she has had some serious drug issues her entire adult life. In truth, the drug issues started when she was closer to 13 (she's going to be 29 in May). The likeliness of her recovering being in a position to take her daughter back is very very small.
I haven't even spoken to DH about it. I literally JUST found out that she wants us to take the baby...
So, things have gone from bad to worse. There's now a warrant our for my cousin's arrest and her boyfriend's arrest for theft by fraud, and a warrant out for her arrest for parole violation.
My grandfather died in January. My aunts have slowly been cleaning out his house and going through his belongings. My cousin and her boyfriend broke into the house and started selling my grandpa's things. Two of my aunts went over there on Saturday to clean out the house and my cousin and her boyfriend were there, 2 guys came up to them looking for my cousin. She told these guys she'd sell them ALL of the appliances in the house (a good $6000 worth of appliances) for $500, she took their money and she and her boyfriend left. My aunts had NO idea until the guys asked to get into the house to get the appliances. The police were called.
She's looking at going back to prison, and who knows what's going to happen to her boyfriend.
I just don't think I can invite that drama into my family. The only way I could take this baby is if my cousin and her boyfriend were willing to just have us adopt her with them having ZERO contact with the baby and with our family.