And we don't know what else to do. She's in counseling..has an appointment next monday.
Background info: SD is 4, will be 5 in June. DH filed for custody modification last March and gained primary physical custody on July 2nd. Because of summer visitation she didn't actually begin living with us primarily until the beginning of August. BM is allowed phone calls every day but she rarely answers or calls us. She spoke to SD by phone the other day for the first time in a couple of months.
SD has been acting out in anger/tantrums and some nights are hard to get her to bed because she cries for BM.
She's crying right now. We put her to bed 2 hours ago and she's still crying. She has a tv with netflix and hulu for cartoons and she's allowed to watch it at bedtime. So that's on. She has a plug in nightlight also.
We have each gone in and held her and comforted her. She has stopped crying each time but as soon as we finish tucking her back in she starts wailing again. I asked her what we can do for her but her only answer was for us to take her to BM. BM lives 3 hours away. SD has school. We've explained that she can''t go tonight. She'll go on friday. But she keeps getting up.
I know it's normal. She's still so young. But as time goes on this issue is getting worse..not better. She didn't do this a few months ago. Maybe every once in a while but this is becoming regular. We feel awful for her and hate to see her hurt. But what else can we do?
ETA: BM does take her scheduled visitation. I realized I didn't make that clear. But recently she went to BM's for spring break and spent about 4 days not even with BM..but a few hours away at BM's boyfriend's mom's house. Then BM asked us if she could start getting SD every weekend because she doesn't get enough time with her. It's frustrating. So we're not sure how much time she's actually getting with BM on her weekends.