So...DH is NCP to SS13. BM rarely communicates with DH about SS and when she does it is through SS - though the CO states both parents will NOT use SS to communicate. BM had a baby about 10 days ago. It's been rumored that earlier this week she had to go back in to the hospital to have her spleen (or a portion of her spleen) removed. DH picked SS up from BMs sister's house for his time on Wednesday. When DH talked to him last night he was still at BM's sister's house. But according to SS, he is not staying there. If BM is in the hospital, SS should be staying with us, not his aunt or SF. They have a 24 hour ROFR. DH thinks that BM is trying to keep what is going on quiet so that DH does not exercise his ROFR. It's just frustrating. She will not answer the phone and refuses to communicate any way but via text IF she even responds at all. And there is no way for DH to really know what is going on, if she is in the hospital, and how long she will be there. UGH!