Anyway this morning dh saw some texts from bms boyfriend that he is, not mad, but creeped out about. Dss went and hung out with some friends Friday night at a friends house (and coincidently the house of te hs principal) and his girlfriend was also there. While he was there bms boyfriend was texting things like 'don't forget the condom' 'better put your clothes on before I get there' and other references to dss having sex and oral sex.
Dss is 13 and in 8th grade. Dh (and I) don't think that dss is anywhere near sexual activity beyond kissing. He is shocked that a grown man would feel it was appropriate to say things of that nature to his son.
He had the big sex talk and has been good about checking with where dss might be emotionally and otherwise and has been trying hard to discourage dss from repeating his mistakes and doing things before he is ready to. So he feels like this is working against what he has been trying to instill in his son.
What would you do if you were the parent in this situation?