I'm posting for DH. Their CO states that the parties are to have Easter every other year. Not the weekend, but Easter. Easter weekend is DH's. Every even year he has had SD since she was 2. She is now 8, and it is his year for Easter and his weekend as well. I hope I'm making sense so far.
Last year, SD spent Easter with DH. She said she had to work and asked DH to take her last year. DH said fine, but please remember that this is your year for Easter, and I'm not giving up my year next year. He wanted to keep this year's Easter and the rotation the same. She said fine, whatever, just keep her. She was fighting with her boyfriend, and had no one to watch her. Great, we had her here.
This year, it is his year for Easter, and she sends him a text today saying it's her year, and she's keeping her the entire weekend. Keep in mind, only the day is listed in their CO, not the weekend, and it's DH's year for Easter. DH reminds her of what happened last year, and she denies it ever happened, saying it's her year and she's keeping her, because she wants to take her to church. DH said fine, since I had her last year for Easter, I'll just pick her up Thursday evening at 6 and keep her until Saturday at 6, and you can have the holiday. It's not worth fighting over. We had plans with her Saturday, anyway, and Easter could be celebrated Sat. No big, right?
She said, no, it's my year, I'm keeping her the whole weekend, end of discussion. He wants to know what he should do next. He's really upset, because it'll be another month before he sees SD again at this rate, and it's his time to have her, and it's being taken away yet again. I know he has time for her to change her mind, but she NEVER has and has run off with her for months at a time when she doesn't get her way. He is upset and nervous. Should he start the process to file for contempt? I know he can't until she officially doesn't show on Good Friday, but still. He's mad, heartbroken, and sick of the nonsense. He thought he offered her a reasonable accommodation, but she won't hear any part of a compromise. Suggestions for him?