I have a friend who has 2 children with BF.
BF has always been an in and out dad.
For about a year, they had a steady schedule - dad would come over Friday nights. They'd have pizza and watch a movie. Dad would put the kids to bed, and get up with them in the morning and then they would all spend Saturday together. ( You don't have to tell me that it's unhealthy for BM and BF to go on like a family, my friend even knows it, but doesn't mind the arrangement because she's been sleeping with BF and is now pregnant. SM is finally leaving him May 1st )
Okay, well BF has been really slacking with seeing his children. He hasn't been over to see them in THREE WEEKS. For the past few months, he's seen them maybe one day a month fdor a few hours.
Yesterday, the 3 year old was really bad at daycare ( Disclaimer: Friend and I are pretty positive he has ADHD and ODD, but he's too young for a diagnosis, and most of his days are bad days. Yesterday was just extreme ) . When friend picked them up, the teacher told her that when he was acting out, he kept telling them to " Call my daddy " and "If you want me to be good, call my daddy "
My friend uses daddy as a threat to behave. She has always told him, if you're not going to be good, I'm going to call your dad. Her thought is that a dad is supposed to be the disciplinarian.. yeah, not in a broken family though.
So now she is way over analyzing what is going on.. Um, he needs to see his dad more! He is telling you this, plain as day !!
Ugh end vent