Should kids be allowed (burdened!) with choosing where to live?
In an intact family, if Mom or Dad get a job out of state or in another town and all things considered, it's what needs to be done, kids just don't get a choice. They might get to voice their thoughts and those thoughts are taken into consideration, but ultimately, the adults make that decision.
When there's divorce, a move typically would take the kids away from the other parent and require a change in visitation. Typically, the parent who is moving away has to forfeit their visitation based on the parameters of the CO.
CO aside though, is there an age or a scenario where you think that kids should be more involved in the decision to live here or there ? I'm not talking about there being issues with parenting, neglect, one house has a nicer car for them to drive. I'm talking about this being based solely on location, changing schools etc.
Now add a twist:
Parent A moves, Parent B stays and kids stay
because the CO states that kids can't be moved out of school district
without both parents agreeing. Not what Parent A wanted but that's the
A year later, Parent B notifies Parent A that they are planning to move.
Parent A could (in theory) fight that and insist that the kids stay in the same district. However, Parent A would prefer that the kids move to Parent A's location.
Parents A & B have options (and maybe more than I'm listing...I dunno). Go to court and sort it out. OR Offer the kids a choice. Because changing schools has always been the hesitation for the kids as it would for most kids, that is off the table as a deciding factor because either way, they'd be changing schools.
Should kids have a say then? Or should the parents circumvent the courts and just work it out based on what the kids want to do?
I tend to vote go to court. I think it's too much pressure on kids, too much potential for guilt, too much potential for back and forth, and too much potential for making plans and then having one parent or the other back out at the last minute and decide that they do want to go through court.