Update: SD LIED? For what purpose?? My 10 Year old SD told me she had sex with 7 year old boy at BMs house!
((Sorry, I had to delete the whole thing cause it was just to long))
DH and I talked to BM and BM and BD took SD to the ER to have them look at her. ((It was on BMs time, she asked dh if he'd take her the rest of spring break because she couldn't handle her, We got her on wednsday, took her home early saturday morning to do this.))
Long story short, the doctors did NOTHING! They took my SD into a room alone to talk with her. After talking with her maybe an hour they came out with nothing. ((She has a history of "Not Talking" when it comes to counclers or other adults))
They said that because she wouldn't tell them anything they didn't think that it warrented them to "Examin" her.... They told them that this child is confused and that she does not in their opinion does not know what sex really is and there for may have said they had sex but it was not real sex because she doesn't know what it really is. Thats how this girl is, she lies to cover up the truth. The below statement will show otherwise that she does in fact know what sex is and how to preform it.
I'll tell ya, my SD has seen porn video's. She's seen people having sex. BM had it on her tv, never put a block on the channels, so SD was watching it while BM was sleeping. She has also gone onto her grandmothers ((Gm's home, BM, SD, BMs DS, BMs BFriend live at the gms house)) computer and was caught looking at porn, watched it also on BMs computer, BMs long time friend who has kids younger than SD told their mom that SD was showing them sex stuff on a IPad that had access to the internet. BMs friend does not allow SD at her home any more and does not allow SD to be around her kids because of it.
Our house on the other hand, the computer I had for SD was an older ((2000)) with only 20gb HD and only 256Ram so very slow. Enough for a child to play a few games on. I allowed her to have the internet on it for some kids sites for games ie: kizi.com or that one I can't think of at the moment where IRL you get a stuffed animal with a code you go online with and have a virtual pet to care for. The computer I had equiped with parental controls like any parent would that did not allow sites like porn or the like to come up. I also had a "Key Logger" on the computer to keep track of what she was "Typing". Thats how I found out she was searching for sex and how to have a baby, how to have sex, ect. She could not actually "Search" that stuff cause of the parental locks, but because of the key logger it showed me exactly what she was trying to look up. It was then that we found out from BM that she'd been doing all that over there and actaully seeing it. BM hid it from BD and I until we had proof what SD was doing. BM said she was getting SD help, but sense that happened its gotten worse.
Through past experiances my SD lies to anyone who asks her what really happened. I've not known her to be able to tell the truth on anything.
((((Also BM called the boys father while we were there, he talked to his son and he said he didn't know why he was being asked all that, He had no idea what was going on. So from what the boys father said, nothing could of happened in any way sexual because the little boy had no idea. So I am thankful that nothing really did happen. The PROBLEM now to address is WHY this girl would LIE and say they had sex?? Why would she of said that? Only answer I have is that this child is acting out for her mothers attention and everything else has failed to do so. I dont really know... But i'm confused as to why she'd say they had sex when it never did happen? What would her saying that accomplish? The fact that her really having sex could bring down on her and others if the athorities or cps, ect got involved could have serious actions. If she's LYING and people believe her could pose serious problems for everyone involved... over a lie. Boggles the mind!))))
But the hospital recomended her to another councler, whom she's got to go see when an apt gets made.
We'll go from there on what happens. But with as many therapists this child has seen, none of them have been able to get out of her "WHY" she does what she does. I will let BD and BM know the possibility that it could if fact be a mental problem/imbalance. This girl is already on 2 different types of ADHD medications. ((BM pushed on the doc's that she was ADHD because BM herself is, But BD is bipolar.)) The doctors are just going by what "BM Tells Them" how she is. But there is much more going on with her than just adhd in my opinion. So if BM does not take her to a doctor to get evaluated to see if there is something more mentally wrong then DH and I have decided to get her a new doctor and tell them the whole truth, and not hide what BM is clearly hiding about all the sexual stuff. ((We went to an apt with the adhd doc awhile back. Told him about the extra sexual behavior, he wanted us to try a new medication, it was a trial one week prescrip. We had my SD for a week durring the summer at the time. It seemed to help... But when we told BM about it, BM said that it did not help one bit and took her off them faster than she was put on it. ((BMs always been a control freak and if its not her idea she makes damn sure it doesn't work, even at the expense of the wellbeing of this child))
Anyways, Thanks for all the replies. I will do some more research and be in contact with a few people on this matter. I hope something works soon, for this childs sake.
Thank you all "CafeMoms" who took the time to read the long post I left and took the time to reply to it and give good advice.