I never thought in my life that I would have step kids, boy was I wrong. I was aware my husband had a daughter for a previous girl friend but wasn't sure she would be part of our lives due to the attitude and behavior of the ex. The step daughter now 12 has lived with us for about 2 months and has been challenging for me and my husband. My step daughter has been through a roller coaster with her mom for years, so been trying to be supportive and mend alot of anger. Back in late October we realized that my sd was taken by DPS and placed in foster care. There was eidence of both physical and emotional child abuse, so my husband realized he needed to gain custody of his daughter. We got physical custody of my sd in late February and late March the case was dismissed. In March the ex was involved in an apartment fire and found unconcious, so we waited days so my sd could visit her mom. Sad to say that she didn't get better and passed on. Even though I rarely knew her death is something you don't wish on anyone. As we made room in our lives for her there was challenges that I had to face. I tried giving her time to heal and if needed come to me for support but never happened. When an issue arised that needed attention we would try to talk to my sd about, she runs off and in tantrum to her room. My husband would go back there to check on her. They would talk in the room while I sat in another waiting on what to do. I tink should I go back there and see if assistance is needed or do I just stay and have tem work it out. With my back ground I just stay and hope the issues work out. It was a blessing from God that we got to spend some time at church together and she is trying to communicate with me. I know it is alot of patient and trust on both of our ends and only time can tell.