My question is: How do you help a step child that is going through a difficult time?
The story: (Some have read this a few times) Dh is going through a heated custody battle. He has requested full custody. Bm is an addict and her behavior is becoming increasingly dangerous. She has been making false abuse allegations to harass DH and I, and to try to sway the decision for custody. She is facing criminal charges for wasting CPS time and putting her child through that. She has been harassing and stalking our home. And today she got in a car accident with ss5 in the car (DH is trying to find out if she can be drug tested). And DH was informed of something that will inpact the case that happened a few weeks with her and the police (with ss present today).
Dh has been handling things really well but today is having a really hard time with it. He wants this whole thing to be done and is scared that something bad is going to happen to ss. SS has been having really bad tantrums. His attitude is so different when he comes over. And usually goes back to being himself the next day (after sleeping in our home). We just love on him and play with him to get his mind off things. I plan crafts and activities for us (he and my ds) to do together. The boys and my husband wrestle and do boy stuff together. But nothing is working today. It really hard on our whole family. He is confused, stressed and going through something very difficult. He senses the tension.
Are we supposed to do whatever make ss happy? Keep our house rules? Just deal with it until custody is figured out?
Thanks ladies. I dont have any friends that have gone through anything like this so it helps to hear what you would do.