Have any of you been reported to CPS by either BM or SKs? I posted a few weeks ago about SS calling 911 on me because I asked him to bring me his cologne...
Well, DH came home early today with a funny look on his face. Turns out he was meeting with CPS. Either the 911 call prompted a complaint to CPS or BM called CPS (this is not the first time, but its been a while). Anyway, both SKs were interviewed by CPS at school and now DH met with them today. Apparently the SKs told them that I had verbally abused them in the past (I don't know exactly what they told them). I've been living with my SKs full time for the past 5 years and BM sees them 1-2 weeks a year and DH works long hours so you can imagine that I've been around long enough for some of my finest moments to show up. I asked DH what they said the SKs told CPS and apparently they were mentioning things from past years? IDK.
Anyway, my SS, who is almost 13, is the instigator here, as is BM. SS is ODD/ADHD and on the autism spectrum and takes medication for aggression (has since he was 6). The thing is, he doesn't really exhibit any autistic characteristics but they say he is on the spectrum. He gets good grades and plays sports, although he is not that great of an athlete, he enjoys it. This year we got him into umpiring. He's been suspended from school twice this year for bothering 2 different girls. He is in counseling, has been for the past 7 years, off and on.
Anyway, I told DH that I feel like I'm living with a dog who bites and may attack me at any time. It is not possible for DH to be here every time SS is here alone so I don't have that extra adult in the house to make sure I'm not really abusing anyone. SS going to live with BM is probably not going to work because she is mentally unstable, in and out of mental hospitals. I mentioned to DH about having him move out and get an apartment with just DH and the SKs which would financially devistate me as I have this big house payment now. DH does NOT want to leave me. The only solution DH can think of is to send SS to a boarding school.
What the heck am I supposed to do here? I am at a total loss.
Married, CSM to SD14 & SS12, CBM to DS12 & DD9