So I have read things on here in the past posted by birth and step moms that get extremely angry about step children calling their step parent mom or dad. I still have not seen any reasons for not allowing it that make sense. Mostly it seems to me that women that are very against it are insecure in their relationship with their child. My daughter has chosen to call me mom. She isn't put under pressure and is never corrected if she calls me by my first name. I believe it shows the bond we have and has nothing to do with her birth mother. I've heard people say it will confuse her... she knows who pushed her out into the world and who didn't so how exactly does it confuse her? Does it confuse you if you call your mother in law mom? I've heard someone say it undermines her birth mother. When my daughter happens to be in a room with the two of us she knows that her birth mothers rules and say is what she needs to listen to. I've also heard how being a step parent you have no rights. I really don't know of a law that demands a child to call people by specific names. So I don't see that as a valid reason either. I know I am also going to hear about calling her my daughter... no I don't have legal rights. I didn't carry her for 9 months. I am however her mother figure when she is in my care... legally or not. So have at it ladies. I want to hear some other reason why it wrong because, if anything, I am totally curious. Can you come up with a reason that isn't really based in insecurity?