I am a bm who had a pretty awesome relationship with my eh's girlfriend, until the other day when my gut instinct told me to check dd's (9yo) phone. I found texts from said girlfriend, dating as far back as November telling dd that "no matter heat happens, they will always be friends", discussing her relationship with eh, telling her that she misses eh, etc. Another thread was about me not letting dd go over to eh's house (he was out of state, I called him on the phone and we both made the decision that dd should stay at my house), because dd and the girlfriend had made plans without asking me or eh if that was ok. She was talking about how upset she was and what not. I also found gaps in their texts, so dd has been deleting parts of their conversations. I'm pretty freaked out, because it have opened my home to eh's girlfriend, I've been more than friendly and accommodating and I really thought things were going great. Now I'm afraid that she is manipulating dd to stay with eh, as well as making me look bad. I spoke to eh last night and he told me that he had concerns as well, because he thinks that his girlfriend has been too friendly with dd and not acting as an adult should. He said that his gf will not tell dd no and he's slowly turning into the bad guy, even in his own house.
What do you ladies think?