Hello and Happy Tuesday!
My SD (12) and I are quite close and she trusts me. She has always told me what's on her mind, the 411 about boys and the mean girl challenges of her 6th grade class, etc.... She has a boy she likes, but they are "not going out" - whatever that means. Her response to going out means you post a pic together on Instagram. Normally I don't tell my husband what she shares unless I think he needs to know because its the type of stuff any parent would want to know. For example, he knows of her crush, but I spared him the details, etc. Last weekend she told me about some bullying issues at her school where I am quite sure she is the one doing the bullying. Her way of sticking it to her bully is by bullying her back. Petty stuff really but still not exactly the way a parent would want their child behaving.
I don't quite know what to do. If I tell my husband I now he will get very upset. She may stop sharing things with me which means we will no longer know what is really going on with her, who she's hanging out with, etc... but then again, I think this needs to be addressed. I tried to talk to her about it and how as a young girl that can be very hurtful, etc... Sunday my husband and I watched Mean Girls and were talking about bullying and he even said if he knew his daughter bullied someone she'd be grounded for a month! I kept my mouth shut. I know if that happened I'd break her trust and that would put her on a path to hating me...
So what would you do? Break her trust or keep quiet?