Eerily quiet...you ever worry about when the next shoe is going to drop?
BM in my sitch is usually asking for money and/or making threats/withholding visitation if her requests are denied. Since December, we've been through Xmas issues, the SD16 car thing, Spring Break, and SD14 braces. Typically, there is some kind of request at least once a month. Since I paid off DH's portion of the braces for SD14 about a month ago though, it's been crickets. It makes me nervous to be honest.
I just got our June R&R planned. The kids won't be out of school in time for the first 1/2 of DH's leave (which is not up to him) so he and I are meeting for a cruise. The second week, we are renting a lovely little cottage near where the kids are spending their summer so he can see them.
I sent the info about the cottage to the kids (14 and 16) yesterday and asked them if they could plan to stay with us, we'll get them to work, yada yada. But I didn't tell them about the cruise. SD16 said she'd let mom know, gave me her work schedule, etc. When I talked to DH today, I mentioned that I had not told them about the cruise. He asked why. And I said, "Because I just think that if BM knows about it right now, she's going to say that they can't stay with us. Or she's going to ask for something else. Or she's going to throw a fit about something else. I dunno. I just feel like it's been too quiet."
He agreed. It HAS been really quiet.
I've been talking to SD16 a lot lately because I've been helping her get set up with a new tennis racket. (also pissed BM off so you see, we can't win. Spend money, don't spend money...we're jerks) But anyway, things sound pretty good right now. BM is talking about moving so maybe that's why she's being quiet. Who knows. Just makes me feel a little twitchy. I don't want to lie to the kids and I haven't. I just said that Dad will be in town on X date. By the time I post this, he may have already told them. I dunno. I just felt like it was a bad idea because it will trigger something with BM.
Is it just me?