I am raising my husbands 3 year old son. Mom is barley in the picture and my husband works out on an oil rig and is gone a lot. I know he's only 3 but SS and I don't really get along. I have no children of my own and have been raising him fully only for a year. I have no idea what I'm doing to say the least. SS is told to not like me and to be mean to mean and is told to not like me. And he is very determined to live up to what he is told. I am with him 98% of the time so I have full permission to discipline as I see fit. I have tried everything!! He does not listen he talks back no is his favorite word and he throws tantrums like I've never seen before. When he acts out I spank I take away toys I try time out (which he thinks is a joke) and I won't allow any tv (he rarely watches anyway. Mostly a kid movie before bed) I am drowning here. I don't know what I'm doing. I've read books articles I've talked to my mom a therapist everything. I'm assuming he's acting out because of the situation. Dad is only around two weeks a month mom is around two hours a week and he's stuck with me. And to him I'm daddy's new wife and not mommy so why should he listen to me. It probably doesn't help that his "mom" and Her family tell him to not like me or listen to me. I just need some help. What do I do!? Please help for the love of my sanity!!!