Today my two DD had doctors appts. Found out both have asthma, and allegries. One has worse asthma, one has worse allergries. DD6 has to be referred out to ped othro, and has axienty. The doc suggested several meds for the asthma and allergies-no Brainers. Also suggested meds for DD6 axienty. That's a big decison. She has axienty because she "has to be perfect", she has sensory processing disorder. So little things stress her out big time, it's also why we have to go to othro. I said we will think about the anti-axienty meds for now.
BF knew they had an appt today. I called him and gave him the rundown. We discussed the pros and cons of the meds, effects, other ways to handle. All rationally and LIKE ADULTS... I am very much against the anti axienty meds at this point. BF agrees. If he hadn't we would have discussed and he would have had to come up with really good arguments for it. If it made sense then I would have changed my mind.
We also discussed summer vacay. BF has no set schedule for visitation. It's up to me because he couldn't get to court. He is very involved (LD) pays his CS on time, and is doubling it of his own accord in July. Because of all this he is getting the girls for the entire summer, at his mom's house.
I hated being married to him, he has several huge flaws. But he LOVES his girls, knows that I am and will always be custodial, is a rational logical human being. And does not let his girlfriend be involved while at the same time acknowledging DH is in a fatherly "role".
Now why can't all the other BP be the same way?!
Lol.. I know some are just batshit. But others are causing so much more stress in their lives unnecessarily- newbie SM trying to take over, BMs who can't or won't coparent (in normal sitchs), BF who want everything handed to them.instead of doing the work themselves... WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG...
EDITING TO ADD:
BF does not want his gf to interact with DDs. His choice I would be ok. DH does not make parenting decison other than daily things-clean your room, time for school. Anything beyond that is dicussed. BF has said that is is glad and knows that DH "has his back"... and positive male influence is a more appropriate choice of words than fatherly role...
Sorry guys I'm tired. Long week.
Ok so now I won't have to explain that a zillion times.