So, I have 2 step children (5 & 7). Their mother, who sucks at life in general, but is even worse as a parent, wanted to be the "primary parent" in the divorce for no other reason than to get the child support, that she doesn't even use on the kids. So, she gets them 5 days more per year than he does according to the papers. He's supposed to have them 3 days a week, she's supposed to have them 4 days a week, except for a few weeks a year when he gets them all 7 days. Well, the only thing she does as far as the kids is watch them for a couple hours before they go to bed. She won't give them baths (she makes them take baths, but she will not wash them), she refuses to cook dinner for them (she has taught them to use the microwave and put the food down low where they can reach it). The only time she even cooks dinner is when her boyfriend is over there. If she is hungry after work, she will get her something for dinner and eat it on the way to pick them up. She expects him, his mother, or his sister to get the kids ready for school and take them and pick them up from school and she sends them to her parents every weekend. She has NEVER acted like a mother. Even when they were babies, if they cried, she would call him to come home from work to take care of them.
She bad mouths me and him in front of the kids. The other day, when she came to pick them up, my stepson was talking to me. When she left, she spun tires and drive like a bat out of hell down the road. The next day, he told me that she got mad at him for talking to me.
I think my husband should get full custody of the kids. He won't stand up to her. She cusses him and runs him in the ground every chance she gets and has done so the entire time they were married. I just don't know what to do about her.