Today was my first official Stepmama Day. I married my husband last May and have been living with him and his 2 kids (9 and 12) for 2 years. When I woke up today I was suprised by 2 really touching Mother's Day cards. I was excited and posted a picture of the note written in the 9 year old's card. "You make me happy when I see you, I feel like dancing and sometimes I do. You are the best mom ever! I love you! Happy Mother's Day! Your Daughter, Cassie." I thought that was such a sweet note that I'd share it. Well... BIG MISTAKE! I forgot that the kid's birth mom's mom is on Fbook and she logs in to spy on me. Literally within' 5 minutes she saw the post and has been pissed ever since. She has called my husband at least 4 times today and he's had to talk her down, which pisses ME off because I feel like he's constantly having to be her therapist. He says he does it to maintain peace between the three of us, but I can't help but feel jealous. Because of this stupid card business, which she thinks I did out of spite and gloating, she is refusing to communicate with me about the kid's schedule, which is what we've been doing for the last 9 months. I tried calling her and texting her to appologize for the misunderstanding, but she is an angry person who is a professional grudge-holder so it's not helping. I'm concerned because I have such a great relationship with both of my stepkids and I don't want this to ruin it. I have put those kids 1st these past 2 years; I make it to all the soccer games and I help with school parties. I am not trying to take over the role of the mother, I just genuinely love the kids and want to be involved. I wish there was a way for us both to be more understanding of each other's roles but I don't know how to do that. There is a lot of stress on my marriage now because we're trying to get pregnant, and this is not helping. I'm starting to wonder how I'm going to last as a stepmom if I take everything so personal.
Thanks for lettin me vent! I don't know any other stepparents so I feel overwhelmed and alone a lot.