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DH is dumb. Really dumb.

Posted by on May. 15, 2014 at 11:16 AM
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We have recently been billed about $1000 in medical costs for SD (dental, er, specialist, etc). This is after what DH's insurance covers. Well I was looking over the CO and there is NOTHING in there about medical costs. Seriously? How dumb do you have to be DH? Ugh. Hoping that BM is reasonable, but not counting on it.
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WifeyC
by Platinum Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:30 AM

why is he dumb?

hershey6
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:33 AM
Because when he initially made the court order, he didn't have anything put in there about medical costs- so we could end up having to pay for all of it

Quoting WifeyC:

why is he dumb?

OvrMyHead
by Silver Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:35 AM

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?

WifeyC
by Platinum Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:36 AM

If there's nothing in the CO then I would think the parent being billed has to pay it.

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?


hershey6
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:37 AM
Well DH provides the insurance. I would think that it would be logical to split it- but logic is not a prevailing character trait of BM.

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?

hershey6
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:38 AM
Unfortunately, all the bills get sent to us, even though $550 of it was an er visit that BM didn't tell us about and was deemed a non emergency.

Quoting WifeyC:

If there's nothing in the CO then I would think the parent being billed has to pay it.

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?

WifeyC
by Platinum Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:40 AM

Apparently not for DH either. Did he have a lawyer when the CO was written?

Quoting hershey6: Well DH provides the insurance. I would think that it would be logical to split it- but logic is not a prevailing character trait of BM.
Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?


momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:46 AM
Lots of people overlook important pieces that they don't think of when creating a court order. Especially when tensions and emotions are running high. They don't look in to the future because they often focus on today's problems. That doesn't make one 'dumb'. If he had a lawyer, then that would have been something his lawyer would have probably thought of.

I have medical expenses in my court order. It doesn't matter. I've never received a single dime in medical reimbursement. I've taken it to court and a judgement was made. Still haven't seen a dime. Nor have I seen a dime of the legal fees. It would cost more for me to fight it. Sometimes being the responsible parent can feel frustrating but it's just part of this situation sometimes.

Quoting hershey6: Because when he initially made the court order, he didn't have anything put in there about medical costs- so we could end up having to pay for all of it

Quoting WifeyC:

why is he dumb?

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hershey6
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:48 AM
That is true... Nope, they were able to agree to things, so neither one of them had a lawyer.

Dumb dumb dumb.


Quoting WifeyC:

Apparently not for DH either. Did he have a lawyer when the CO was written?

Quoting hershey6: Well DH provides the insurance. I would think that it would be logical to split it- but logic is not a prevailing character trait of BM.

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?

momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on May. 15, 2014 at 11:49 AM
Who deemed it a non emergency?

Quoting hershey6: Unfortunately, all the bills get sent to us, even though $550 of it was an er visit that BM didn't tell us about and was deemed a non emergency.

Quoting WifeyC:

If there's nothing in the CO then I would think the parent being billed has to pay it.

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 I would think that if there was nothing in the CO then both parents are on the hook for paying, right?  Who is responsible for providing medical insurance?

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