My name is Alyse, I have an 8 yr son. My fiance has 4 boys, 23, 19, 17 (with autism) and 12. The 2 older ones don't have much to do with us. We have the 2 younger ones 30% of the time. Just went thru hell w/ his ex over childsupport (he was 4.5xover guidelines) and the 2 older ones think we're dirt. I do so much for the 2 younger ones but I am feeling overwhelmed (working full time), under appreciated, over scheduled and just plain tired. Would love tips to grow a relationship with the 2 older ones, and not to be taken advantage of by the ex and their herd. Thanks!