How or do you introduce your blended family to your extended family? I always attend my family functions by myself or me & my kids. My SO has met very few of my family members & the few that he has met, it's only been once or twice & very short visits. Do your SK's meet your family members? Or do you attend your SO's family functions...with or without SK's....with or without your own kids? & does your SO &/or SK's attend your kid's events....like graduations, sporting events? Or vice versa....do you or your kids attend SK's events???
SO & I have been together for over a 1yr & a half. I know it's still new. & I know that it's different because we are not married & to be honest we may not ever get married. I know that I am not his kid's mother & have no obligation to them. I just want to be able to support them at their sporting events. I know that he has no obligation to my kids as well, but it would be nice to have him in the stands, by my side. How do you have & share a life with someone, with feeling like it's a part time life?
Please no bashing!! I'm just looking for some advice or insight.
Sooo...Friday night was my 4yr old's pre-school graduation. I ended up going by myself. My ex is on probation & not allowed to have any contact with me. & the pre-school that my daughter goes to, all of my ex's friend's children attend as well. Therefore, everyone avoided me like the plague. It was very lonely. I wished my BF would've been there for support. Then yesterday, I attended a family thing for my cousin's graduation. It was just a BBQ type thing at their house....nothing formal. My BF has never met any of the family. BF had his kids so I didn't pressure him to go. I did mention something before I left, but knew he wouldn't go. But I would love for just once, him to be by my side.
Last night, he brought up how I had mentioned him going. I told him how I felt. That I'd like to know where we stand & if it'll always be this way. If it will be us & then whenever the kids are around it is "him & his kids" & then "me & my kids" & if that also cooralates to the extended family....it's "his & his family" & "me & my family" He pretty much said, yes....that's how it's going to be.
He gets upset with me for not interacting as much with his kids. Or how quite I am around his friends & family when I do see them. I can't get him to understand that it takes me some time to warm up to people. I'm extremely introvert & I can take a little bit of time to feel comfortable around others. Furthermore, I can't get him to understand that I see us as a family. & the way that he wants to keep things makes me feel that we are not a family. He says he feels that I only want him to go to things so that I can "parade" him around in front of everyone. That's not the case at all. I love him & am proud to be with him. I want to share my life with him. I honestly don't know what to do.....