I am writing this post for a couple reasons 1) to update and thank CM women for your help for support, because I do not know anyone that has gone through something like this before, you all have been a huge help to me - and 2) because I was unable to find similar situations in my google searches.
I am a BM of one ds10 and one ss5. BM has/had sole custody of SS; Dh had 40% visitation. Bm is currently on 60mg methadone daily and has failed 2/3 drug tests for opiates in four months. In December 2013, Bm began making false abuse allegations against DH; saying that he harms ss. Bm has coached ss to lie. There have been 4 calls to CPS (3 investigations) and roughly 3 visits/calls to police. All investigations have been found unfounded, have stated that it is clear that BM is coaching ss and CPS has even stated they are in support of a custody change. DH filled for custody in January 2014 during the first investigation. Since then BM received a warrant for her arrest for harassing her boyfriend's work place, has failed drug tests, and has been evicted from her apartment. County prosecutor is working on charging Bm with ‘making false reports' which is a four year felony.
Recommendation for FOC:
Full physical and legal custody to DH. Supervised visits only to BM. If Dh doesn't agree with a family member, visits are to be done by court services. No overnight visits with BM. Full psyc eval and drug addiction eval for BM, and she must follow recommendations by doctors. Custody can/will be evaluated in one year.
Bm can accept or deny recommendations, or request a settlement. We except she will deny. Then they will go in front of judge for final say. DH said BM did not look good last pick up. Her eyes were sunk in, she was frail looking, no makeup, etc. I am praying this news does not break her but motivates her to get help. We know it will be hard on SS too. Dh has talked about counseling, and plans on getting him started with that as soon as the order is signed by the judge.
Thanks for reading my story....