They were fine. They mentioned it first.
My boys didn't react well to the news, either time. They were 4 and 8 (I think) when told the first time and 6 and 11 (I think) the 2nd time. Their problem is they don't care for SM and weren't 'happy' she and BF were bringing more kids into the mess they see is BF/SMs home. They're ambivalent about their sisters. They love them but do not want to spend time with them nor do they enjoy their company. That's the relationship BF/SM have built for the boys over there though. (I'd actually feel sorry for BF and SM if they told the boys today that they were expecting again. I'm sure the thoughts from the 16yo wouldn't be pretty... ;) )
Truly, though, there are much bigger things to be 'scared' about than how the skids may/may not react. This may seem 'big' now, but it truly isn't.
Do the skids have younger siblings with BM/SF? How long have their parents been divorced? How old are the skids?
It's not just a step kid thing, OP. Lots of kids are not so hip to the idea of a new sibling.
I didn't even realize my mom was pregnant with my first brother (in my defense, I was only 3). I remember the day she was going to the hospital (scheduled C-section). She went out to the swings with me and told me she'd be gone for a few days and when she came home, I'd have a baby brother. Was. Not. Happy. In fact, I was a class A asshole when baby bro did come home.
For my youngest bro, I was 7 and my middle brother was 4. Mom and Dad told us the news (and recorded it) right before leaving for vacation to see family. All of the family knew so they had to tell us. When they broke the news, my brother and I were both like "But we wanted a KITTEN!"
My SDs are older. When they first heard that DH and I wanted to have a baby it was a major big deal melt down by the kids followed by the worst fight my DH and I have ever had.
Ultimately though, if it's what you want to do, do it and the kids will get over it.
they never knew....I was only 6-7 weeks along when I miscarried.
I'm not sure if DH or BM told them either.
But I can say when BM got pregnant with her youngest-SD was 6 and ss was barely a year old-sd wasn't happy-she got violent towards her mother and baby son...she was acting out at home and at her father's house...having issues in school.
Eventually she got over it.
SS was happy to have siblings, I didn't have a concern as long before we even got married SS asked for siblings.
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