As far as respecting BM for her role as mother, yes I do. Any other type of respect for that woman has been lost! After a long time of high conflict exchanges (especially after DH and I built a new home, we decided to eliminate her jealous fits and inappropriate behavior where we feel trapped and are unable to get her to leave (ultimately needing to stop the drama in front of kids!) and get kids away from situation when she gets out of place. Now she refuses to cooperate with this and is demanding it is her right to come to our home in spite of our telling her she is unwelcome and unwanted here! I understand she will be breaking the law if she comes here. However, what do u do? The kids will see all that happens. She has violated us and our home so much, I can't take it anymore! She is seriously not welcome here! Her threats and her buying has to stop! What do u do?
so after two sleepless nights and much discussion, the ex wife was allowed to drop off at our house! I simply can not believe this. I left while this occurred. For the first time in my life I feel like I can not physically control myself and my words or actions when provoked by such a person. I haven't ever felt that u couldn't keep my composure under immense circumstances, until now.
I've come to realize that my future with DH will be filled with too much anxiety and fear of the next drama from BM. My health and wellbeing has been taking a toll. I have very little hope for this amazing man to break free from her control and my ability to respect him has nearly vanished.
I'm at a huge crossroads. Without her crazy he and I are perfect together! When she is involved, my life is LIVING HELL!