My ss lives a few States away so we get him in the summer and he stays with bm during the school year. This is the third summer he has been with us since me and dh got married and it seems to me like every summer gets worse.
He won't mind me or dh when we talk to him and he is obviously jealous of the baby. He constantly says mean things about baby and if we turn our back for a second he has hit and taken things from him. SS is very disrespectful to me and lashes out the second my dh shows me or any of the other 3 kids attention.
With this behavior it makes it hard for me to want to be around ss let alone do things with him as my dh wants me to do. I don't even want to be home with them anymore. I can't even give my dh a hug or kiss without ss screaming and throwing a fit to take dh attention of of me and forget about him spending time or helping with the baby because ss will freak out.
Dh says its no big deal and I should understand that ss is away from him all winter so he needs special attention while he's here in the summer. However I don't think its fair to me and the other kids that we have to be pushed to the side and neglected all summer every summer because ss has jealousy issues. Its even got ton so bad that I have to sleep on the couch so ss can sleep in our bed with dh because that's the only way he will go to bed. We have tried putting him in his own room and shutting the door but he screamed so loud for so long the cops came to our door.
I can't deal with this any longer and if I bring it up to dh he gets mad and says I'm picking on ss. I'm starting to feel like leaving is the only other option. Any advice would be appreciated.