When is it OK to "end the visit and send the child home"? CONCLUSIONS
I have posted before about BF wanting to send a bitchy, 15 year old DD home while in the middle of one of herhormonally charged rages/breakdowns. As in ending the visit and home being my home.
for both selfish (I didn't want to deal with the incident he created - she really was a challenge then) reasons and practical reasons. I felt like he would be relinquishing any chance he had of being a true parent if he just gave up on her, categorized his time with his DDs as visits and didn't consider his home their home also.
Thoughts? Is it ever appropriate?
And of course if the child is causing physical harm, some separation might be necessary for awhile. But other than physically harming other children, when is it appropriate.
I am curious about this from all perspectives. Would your DH send his kids away? As a SM, would you return your skids? BM, would you return your kids?
So, after 64 replies from 28 unique members, I can confidently say that 25 of you would not send a horribly misbehaving child - step or bio - back home to the other parent. You would deal with it. One SM sent SDs in their 20's away for physical assault. Another SM sent skid to BM while caring for him/her alone without DH for an extended period of time and the kid was being a rebellious, difficult teen. In the second case, if her DH had been home, he would not have returned the child.
And one example got confusing but skid was sent away to protect the privacy of a bio.
So, is it just that the people who responded to the thread that inspired this post just didn't respond here and that is why it seems so overwhelming that kids don't get sent away for misbehaving? Who are the posters that quickly advise to send the kid back to mom if they don't know how to behave? Are these the same posters (and I will go out on a limb here and say it is a particular subset of angry, unhappy SMs) who blame BM for all that is wrong with a skid even if her beloved DH has custody?
Anyway, I am sure we will continue t read advice to send the kid back to Mom.