The back story... Been w/DH for 8 yrs now...knew he was CP so I've had these boys since ages of 9/10 yrs old. I have 4 adult kids I raised as single mom. All 4 are accomplished/successful...college educated...gainfully employed...married/in stable relationships etc. Wasn't my first rodeo and felt my parenting skills were decent all things considered ...knew there would be struggles... But hey my intentions were good...I love kids...so ya! I can do this! Researched step parenting ...joined support groups... Boy was I dumb and naive!!!
I did EVERYTHING for these boys...but little did I know I was being undermined by psycho BM and her psycho family from day one!! Who BTW couldn't be bothered to do anything for her kids except reinforce in their minds that they didn't have to listen to me b/c I'm not their mom (true...I get that...but am DH's wife and you live in MY home) and that I was reason she and dad aren't together as big happy fam! Now mind you they were divorced over 4 yrs before I ever came into picture!!
There's so much more to this story...it would take a book to explain it all!! But suffice it to say I was doomed to fail from day one!! I've been reading posts about how some of you other SM's see some of us as "awful" b/c we couldn't/can't make our families work...and to that I say this...
Pls save your sanctimonious BS for each other!! I'm truly happy that your situations are all skittles, rainbows and unicorns that fart fairy dust!! Each situation is unique and there are SO many of us that have given 1000% but it will never be good enough b/c outside influences were conspiring against us from day one!!
My marriage was damn near ruined ...my personal safety jeopardized...ya this kid 6'2 325lbs...I'm 5'3 135lbs on a good day...he told me he thought about killing me!!
So now they are both gone and never allowed back!! My DH and I can start to put our marriage back together and I can live in peace!
I never used to feel this way about skids...but now my new motto is ...
"No longer my circus...no longer my monkeys!!!!!"