The group in STd is the best place for you. People here don't hate their husband's kids or want them to go away. The stepmoms here want what's best for their kids and stepkids and want good relationships and a happy home.
All of this dragging things back and forth ... StaUpIt. We don't want it. We don't like it. We aren't going to be on your side for hating your stepkids and wanting them to go away. We will not help you in your bash BM campaign.
If you want help, or want a change - this is the place for you! Lots of great posters and women with lots and lots of experience. If you feel attacked - it's probably because you don't like what you are being told. Don't want change? Then don't post. Don't want tips? Don't post. Don't want judgement? Don't post. And please - for all that is precious - learn to spell, use correct grammar and keep your stories straight.