SS was in 7th grade last year. We pretty much let him pick all the EC's he wanted within reason of time and cost. Even though we had adviced him not to get involved in too many activities he tried to do too much anyways, as a result some of his grades suffered. He was grounded often because of his grades. We were hoping the whole natural consequences thing would kick in and he would realize that he really didn't have the time to do so much again this year. However, after talking with him he commented on doing all the same stuff again this year and he wants to add more EC's. I hate having to tell him he can't participate in something but we pretty much decided he has to eliminate at least two EC's from his schedule. He does not pay attention to whether or not the schedules conflict. He does not want to put in the extra work when he gets home. After he's had a 9 hour day, including sports practice, or student counsil meetings, or extra band practices; he wants to just come home and be lazy. He thinks he's earned it but he doesn't realize "oh yeah, I have homework". Then he's always trying to get out of it. After all the frustation this caused last year, I discussed with DH cutting some of his EC's back, which DH agreed to. DH is most concerned with education and grades, and SS simply couldn't maintain the grades we know he's capable of because he was too overloaded with EC's. I know SS is going to be bummed that we are making him cut back but he won't do it himself.
How do you manage your kids EC's? How much organization and time management do you expect the child to do? Generally, I was constantly reminding SS that his schedules were conflicting. It's very frustrating and I want to eliminate some of that frustration this year.
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