DS and SD that is. DS is 11 and SD is 14 (but, due to developmental delays related to a birth disorder is developmentally closer to about 10).
We live in a fairly large apartment complex that has larger apartments (3 and 4 bedrooms) so we have a LOT of families living here. The super awesome part about that is that there is never a shortage of kids to hang out with. Our house has become the "hang out" place for a lot of the middle school aged kids (which is weird because we don't even have cool snacks, LOL, mostly just fruits and veggies and water). But, we have a wii U and lots of board games and listen to music all day long, so maybe that has something to do with it?
Before any of the kids are allowed to come inside I make sure their parents know where they are and are OK with them coming in. Right now DS and two friends are playing Skylander.
Anyways, this has now translated into the kids making plans to stay the night with their friends, friends who's parents we've never met. Now, DH and I are pretty lax about most things, we give the kiddos room to make mistakes and learn from them, but also help guide them into making the best decisions possible. Going into someone's house we don't know is not OK, staying the night with someone who's parents we don't know also not OK.
And, the kicker, SD has now made plans to go to the beach (a minimum of 90 minutes away, but depending on which beach it could be 2 1/2 hours away) with a friend who's parents we haven't met. All she's told DH is that they're going for the day tomorrow to the beach. When DH told her he wasn't sure that was a good idea and before he could even think about saying yes he needed to meet the friend's mom SD was super upset (poor kiddo started crying). SD is now upstairs on the phone with her friend trying to get all the information DH wants and she's trying to schedule a time for DH to meet her friend's mom.
These kids are crazy! LOL But, I remember trying to do the same thing as a kid, making plans and then hoping my parents would just say yes because the plans were already made (it worked as well for these kiddos as it did for me as a kid).