To rehash, I have a lt on my plate and some of it is feeling resentful of BM taking advantage and SO allowing it to the detriment of our finances (meaning we can't afford to even FEED them all)
So I was home after work and ss11 announces to me "my mom is going to Fresno for the weekend" (why anyone would want to go there for the weeken is beyond me but whatever) however. ITS HER GOD DAMN WEEKEND. After we broke ourselves taking them on vacation and have had them 25 out of the last 30 days while paying child support for ten days. I had it! At that moment as it happened, SO pulled into the driveway. I marched my happy ass out tere and asked him "are you aware BM is going to Fresno for the weekend? It's her weekend. Did she even ask?" He says no. I went on to say "well babe, we need to talk. Right now. This is not about the kids, so have an open mind. She needs to be a fuckin mother to her own kids sometimes. They are good kids, I care about them but this is too much for me. On Sunday, they need to go to BM's an stay there all week." He says "what about next weekend?" I said "well that's your weekend but the following weekend is hers, and she needs to keep them. We can't afford to have her all the time while paying her. And I don't mind telling you it fuckin chaps my ass that she has he hair nails and tan all the time and" (point to my hair and feet) "I look like SHIT cuz any cash I get is spent feeding her children on her time. I'd like to say it makes me feel better that I rather feed hungry kids than spend on my looks but it does not. " he agrees to what I said and then I told him "and I'd like to make another request. Can you guys do half week on and half week off? You're not giving up any time but it's in shorter stretches. I'm completely overwhelmed w this many kids with a whole week" he said ok.
I'm sure he will comply for a few weeks and BM will try to run all over him again but I'm speaking up. I hate the way I have been feeling lately. As a matter of fact, I think tomorrow I am taking the baby to visit a friend in the city and he can be with his kids all day til he takes them to BM.