Dh and bm are high conflict. Well, bm is high conflict. Dh is one of the most laid back guys I've ever met, to the point where it annoys me occasionally.
Well, our new idea to keep the peace once kindergarten starts (and to reduce to 983738 times bm feels the need to call Dh during her visits) is that a notebook goes back and forth between visits. That way anything that happens that is out of the norm can be written down. The plan is to include a brief couple sentences about what ss did during his time, anything coming up with school or sports, requests for a change of weekend or something, stuff like that.
We're wanting to eliminate the verbal conversation between Dh and bm as much as possible, because she's so much less confrontational when it's written !
Is it insulting to ask that she only write in the notebook if it's not something that needs handled at that very minute?