From my short time being on cm, I've seen many supportive and understanding responses to posts were a SM is discussing the difficulties she has with being a SM; but I also see a lot of responses along the lines of: you knew he had kids when you met him (i.e., so why are you complaining), SK is a child and you should be finding the best in them (implying that it is wholey inappropriate to even criticize a child), etc. I'm the type of mom who is secure enough in myself and my love and skills as a mom (both bio and step) to say that I'm a great mom, but that my kids (again both bio and step) can be an annoyance and even a burden to me. Doesnt mean that I love them any less or that I dont want them to be in my life; but the fact is that bringing my kids with to do grocery shopping ends up taking twice as long and me saying "no" to a million ridiculous requests (hence, it's a burden/annoyance). I dont understand why as mom's we are not able to state this simple fact without being labeled as the worse mom of the year. I can easily say a 20 things that I love and adore about my kids, but I can also say 20 things that I dislike about them as well, and that just makes me honest, not a bad mom.
on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:40 AM