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am I being mean??

Posted by on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:18 PM
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So this is kinda silly and prob mostly more pregnancy hormones talking. We are night weaning our 1 yr old so her dad is putting her to bed in her room w/o me and sleeping in there with her (just a couple weeks until she is weaned) well, our SD is over tonight for the first time since this process and thinks its not fair they get to sleep togheter and threw a fit because shecan't sleep in there too.She is 6 yrs old. After that she wanted to watchfemale wrestling becuase she watches it at her moms house. We are a christian home and my husband has/had a sexual addiction when he was younger so we abstain from watching shows that would provoke feelings. I told her no and she ran to her room and is pouting and won't come out. I am very hormonal for some reason w/ this pregnancy and just started crying too. I feel silly now but should I go and try to sweet talk her or just let her go to bed mad?? I am so mad I want to just leave her when I normally would say something. (Oh she refused to go to her bed...only to bed with her dad) gah. So I would leave her to sleep on the floor unless she changed her mind, Silly....I know. Just curious if I AM BEING A mean/bad step mom.
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jules2boys
by Platinum Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:35 PM

I think you're being hormonal, not mean. 

Why not let 6yo SD put 1yo DD to bed for both of you?  ;) Problem solved!  :) 

Do the 6yo and 1yo have the same bedtime?  Maybe adjust that if 6yo will be in your home for a bit? 

No problems saying NO to some shows that she can watch at BMs. BF and I do it all the time, different homes, different rules.  Kids adjust.  She's 6, of course she'll whine about it, but she'll live too.  :) 

Go put your feet up, pick up a good book to lose yourself in, and let DH handle both of his DDs. :) 

KiwiMumto3
by on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:39 PM

What's Dad doing about all this? He should be enforcing the house rules and sleeping arrangements, not you. You should be the one who gets to swoop in and smooth things over with the kid "I know hun, it's not fair but those are the house rules. Would you like me to read you a book?"

whatIknownow
by on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:53 PM
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you could have let her watch the female wrestling while dad went and did something else. It would have made her feel more at home, but she couldn't watch her show because her dad has some kind of sex addiction issue.

I would just find something else to do, let her sleep with dad. It sounds like she isn't there very much. Now is not the time to stand your ground with her.

sunnydays27
by Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:56 PM
He made me mad too:( He said she could watch it and he would leave the room but I didn't want to have to explain why or make up a reason. This is because she hasnhasn't been wanting to come over here ever since we "make" her try new foods. She only eats pizza and grilled cheese and our youngest is getting to the age where she knows "Good and so so food" so every other day we put a plate of our dinner in front of her and just sit. If she doesnt eat it she can have fruit. Well she hates it so now she doesnt want to come over and he tries to buy her everything and give into everything. He thought I was in the wrong. . w she is sleeping in my husbands and Is bed. I am so irritated. My dh says he will sleep on the floor. It kills me. AND to answer questions yes, they have same bedtime:) 9:00. We take a walk as a family then Bath, brush, book, and bed. But being nursed I always put baby to bed and he always put older daughter to bed. But I need to night wean before other baby gets here so I dont die from 2 babies getting up every 2 hours to nurse. And No she couldnt put her to bed lol. Since she is step she isnt here alll the time and baby gets super excited with her sister and will play all night.
nurse1997
by Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 10:57 PM

Silly is your man can't watch wrestling !!!!  Let the 6 year old help and call it a day !

MBanks524
by Platinum Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 11:05 PM
Let her come in and lie beside you and cuddle for awhile. Let dad lie down with her at nap time. Let her sleep in there with dad for a night. She is 6, she's young herself.
sunnydays27
by Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 11:18 PM
What would be silly is for hit to watch it knowing it could lead to a mmess up. If you didn't read he is a sex addict. He is doing really really well but we just make sure we keep our triggers low and watching female wrestles in booty shorts is a trigger. There is no guarantee he will go out and get addicted to porn again or what ever but he protects himself. (Did you not read that) So kinda like its silly an alcoholic can't have a drink...thathat's our reason. It takes homhim maybe 1. Min to put her down for bed I am just reallesuperr irritated tonight for some reason. Letting her sleep in our bed its annoying he can't say no. Ya know.

Quoting nurse1997:

Silly is your man can't watch wrestling !!!!  Let the 6 year old help and call it a day !

sunnydays27
by Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 11:19 PM
15 Min....not one lol
nurse1997
by Member on Jul. 25, 2014 at 11:42 PM

I read it but ok good luck . Have a good night 

Quoting sunnydays27: What would be silly is for hit to watch it knowing it could lead to a mmess up. If you didn't read he is a sex addict. He is doing really really well but we just make sure we keep our triggers low and watching female wrestles in booty shorts is a trigger. There is no guarantee he will go out and get addicted to porn again or what ever but he protects himself. (Did you not read that) So kinda like its silly an alcoholic can't have a drink...thathat's our reason. It takes homhim maybe 1. Min to put her down for bed I am just reallesuperr irritated tonight for some reason. Letting her sleep in our bed its annoying he can't say no. Ya know.
Quoting nurse1997:

Silly is your man can't watch wrestling !!!!  Let the 6 year old help and call it a day !


whatIknownow
by on Jul. 26, 2014 at 9:00 AM

I'm sorry you have alienated your SD and damaged her relationship with her father this way.

Quoting sunnydays27: He made me mad too:( He said she could watch it and he would leave the room but I didn't want to have to explain why or make up a reason. This is because she hasnhasn't been wanting to come over here ever since we "make" her try new foods. She only eats pizza and grilled cheese and our youngest is getting to the age where she knows "Good and so so food" so every other day we put a plate of our dinner in front of her and just sit. If she doesnt eat it she can have fruit. Well she hates it so now she doesnt want to come over and he tries to buy her everything and give into everything. He thought I was in the wrong. . w she is sleeping in my husbands and Is bed. I am so irritated. My dh says he will sleep on the floor. It kills me. AND to answer questions yes, they have same bedtime:) 9:00. We take a walk as a family then Bath, brush, book, and bed. But being nursed I always put baby to bed and he always put older daughter to bed. But I need to night wean before other baby gets here so I dont die from 2 babies getting up every 2 hours to nurse. And No she couldnt put her to bed lol. Since she is step she isnt here alll the time and baby gets super excited with her sister and will play all night.


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