Reading posts where SMs object to dad favoring or paying exclusive or majority attention to his children when he only sees them EOWE got me thinking about my current situation.
Who I have 85% custody of.
They are 17 and 20 now with boyfriends and jobs and school and multiple commitments. DH faces the same sort of things with SS16 and SS17 who he has about 40% custody of. Kids start to prioritize other people over mom and dad as they get older. Nothing wrong with that. It is their job.
When I do have some time with them at home on a weekend, my focus is on them. I will pick time with my DDs over time with DH or SSs on those rare occasions when I have both of them home for any length of time. And DH does the same thing.
Keep in mind neither of us spoils them or pretends we aren't a parent with parental responsibilities. That isn't my point. Just because you only see your child EOWE should not be an excuse not to parent.
Inevitably, at some point every weekend, DH will take the boys to Guitar Center. I swear the three of them could life there. Because I don't like going should I get mad at DH for taking time away from me and DDs?
Our time with our children, skid or bio, intact or divorced, is fleeting and precious. Before you know it they are getting on a plane in three weeks to study in Sweden until June and you start flipping out. OK, so I am projecting my own angst.
But seriously, we only have our children in our lives temporarily. It is their job to leave. So if your DH wants to spend every precious minute with his child during his woefully small amount of time EOWE, let him. Support him. Make room for that in your life.