This happened a couple of days ago but I have been thinking about it a lot.
My ex called me and asked if he could fly his gf to meet the girls. (He takes visits at his parents because it's halfway and easier). He is about to propose and wanted to see if the girls were ok with it first.
Also he wanted to know what I wanted her role as SM to be and boundaries.
I, of course said you don't need my permission and I don't care. I do trust him enough to put his girls best interest in mind.
On the surface it sounds ideal, right? But i am so uncomfortable with it! As awesome as it is I do not want to be responsible for those decisions. He is so long distance, SM or GF will see the girls less that 5 weeks a year, and honestly will just be the awesome lady dad married. The meet is going well, the girls seem to like her.
I fear a couple of things, that she will be ugly to the girls or become overstepping. Which honestly I don't think my ex will tolerate but...
I am just rambling. Ok any thoughts?