So this is kind of complicated and a little long. SD is 7. Her dad and I aren't married yet and we don't live together but I still consider her my SD. I've known her since she was 2. Her BM and I used to be friends until I started dating SD's dad (her ex). It's kind of like the case with a toddler and her toys; she doesn't want to play with it unless someone else picks it up. Anyways, her mom is a hot mess. She is constantly losing her job, moving from aparment to apartment, staying on people's sofas, etc. In January she took off to Texas (we're in Wisconsin) so she could "start over". She said she would send for SD. Well then she started dating long distance and then moved back here and in with him. A month and a broken engagement later she moves again. Now she actually has a job (yeah!) and she is still in Wisconsin, but this time she's rooming with some girl and her brother. She's also swung to the other side and is dating a girl (not the roomate). Anyways, now that she thinks she's stable, she wants SD back with her during the week and every other weekend. I'm so frustrated. This poor child is FINALLY feeling stable. She has consistency with her dad, she is usually with me when he's working. I have three girls (ages 13, 10, and 5) whom she absolutely loves (most of the time LOL) and she's starting to feel safe again. I mean this poor kid cries because she's afraid that she'll lose her toys when her dad and I get married. Well that's because everytime her mom moves, she leaves all her crap behind, usually because she gets kicked out. I reassured SD that we won't let that happen. Her mom is just batshit crazy, not kidding! And honestly, if I thought that her mom was the best thing for her I'd be happy for SD. I just want what is best; I really do. I love her and claim her when she's with me. But I'm really scared that she will go to her mom's and then in a few months when her mom loses her job or is homeless again, then what? And the other thing that bothers me is that the school that SD goes to is in a different district. So the same thing that happened before will probably happen again. BM will work 11pm to 7 am 30 minutes away from where she lives. She'll get home at 7:30, wake up SD to get ready for school. Then she'll lay down and fall asleep. SD will have no way to school, which is about 15 minutes from where BM lives. All last year (until BM went to texas), she missed about 2-4 days a month, sometimes more.
If you made it through this mess thank you! I am just so upset. When my DF told me I just started crying. Not only am I worried about her but I'll miss her too.
Oh and one last thing..........DF isn't SD's biological daughter so it's not like he has much say in it. I'm just sad.....really sad.....:(