I have made BM mad. BM gets really bad cold sores and has given them to my SD. I have never said anything in the past to her, but as of recently we have told SD not to kiss anyone on the lips/share drinks etc. when she has a cold sore or if BM has a cold sore not to kiss on the lips/share drinks etc. (I also made sure to tell SD to make sure to still give BM love by giving kisses on the cheek and lots of hugs)
Well the other day BM was dropping SD off and had a cold sore covering half her mouth and she went to kiss SD on the lips and I made the comment "remember no kissin gon the lips". BM made the comment back that it was dried up so it was okay. So I just said we have been telling SD that when one of you have a cold sore not to kiss on the lips.
After that she called my husband and made a huge deal that I said something. He told her the same thing about the cold sores. Since then SD will not kiss her mom on the lips and BM has been flipping out and forcing her to kiss her. MInd you BM doesn't just give a quick kiss, she makes out with SD (multiple wet kisses)
Now SD has a cold sore again and I am livid. BM refuses to acknowledge it and won't put the medicine on.
I guess I'm just bothered that someone could hurt their own child and because I have said things I feel like I made it worse. Am I really freaking out for no reason??? How would you handle this??? I know they are "just" cold sores, but they hurt SD and make it hard to eat and then it usually follows with high fevers :(