I am struggling big time. I have been married 3 yrs. My DH has 2 daughters(6 and 8) and I have 2 kids (5 and 7) and we have a baby together. My dh's ex joined the army last July and so we got custody. It has been an extremely rough year. Dh's oldest never accepted me and is completely disrepectful. With Bm gone for months at a time and DH working 40+ hrs a week I am the main parental figure. I find it extremely hard to bond with his daughters. When it was every other weekend it was fine because we always had fun things planned to do with them. Now its everyday life and it feels so strange. Like I am a nanny. That sounds so cold to say but it does. I cant find my role. I am not their mother, but I feel like I have to keep everything equal and fair with all the kids. Help me find my place and role as a full time step mom instead of an every other weekend step mom. I have to disicpline them, i have to nurture them and do everything a mom does. They are kids and there mother isnt here but i understand Im NOT their mother. At the same time i feel like im jipping my own bio kids sometimes of quality time or special moments. I hope this all makes sense. Its hard to word exactly what Im going through. Its just been am extremely stressful yr. his 8 yr old is tough to deal with and I find myself losing my patience with her daily.
on Aug. 7, 2014 at 3:51 PM