As a new step-mom to four children, with two of my own, I am often confused and overwhelmed as to what exactly my role should be. My husband and I share custody of all six children with a 50/50 split, having them all together one week and then none the next. I married and divorced my high school sweetheart so i've never dealt with Ex's or BM's at all, ever. I find the whole process intimidating. With the divorce statistics for second marriages so high, I want to get this right! Any insight would be much appreciated! His children are aged 8, 11, 12, and 16. Mine are 15 and 13. Thanks!