I am not sure how to deal with this. Michael's (my stepdaughter) mom passed away in 2010 (pancreatic cancer). Michael is now 10. Her grandma (mom's mom) still struggles with Dawn's passing, which is understandable. I couldn't imagine how she feels. Having said that, when Michael goes to visit, Gma calls her Dawn and makes her wear Dawn's favorite scent. She also gives Michael Dawn's clothes to wear. T-shirts are fine. But she started giving Michael Dawn's bikini underwear and adult tank tops (Lacy and completely inappropriate for a 10 year old) and makes her wear them when she's there. Michael has started to pull away from Gma. Do I let this happen or encourage her to have a relationship? I understand why she doesn't want to see her much anymore. Well, Michael went to visit her gpa who lives in the same town as gma. She saw her gma for a few hours. Gma gave her Dawn's lacy thong underwear to wear. Obviously SD was very uncomfortable. She doesn't know if she should through them away or keep in a box. She thinks it's gross and obviously she isn't aloud to wear them. Do we say anything to gma about how wrong this is. Michael calls me mom and her mom's family refers to me as mom also, so it's not something that I need to stay out of. She's my daughter, even if not biologically.
on Aug. 12, 2014 at 5:57 PM