This isn't really SM related but an issue I'm having nonetheless. Are there any BM's out there paying CS to their Ex? My Ex and I have joint custody with a 50/50 split. Before Feb of this year, we still had joint physical but I was given more parenting time during the school year. Up until this point he paid me CS, although not a lot because I make more than he does. He filed paperwork for more parenting time and my kids were asking for it as well. He does not live on his own but instead moved back in wIth his parents when we split three years ago and never left. Against my better judgment and on the advice of my attorney I agreed to the arrangement. I was advised that because of my children's ages (13 and 15) he would get it anyway. I offered to split all costs with him equally if he didnt want child support. He said no. He would rather get the CS. Now I pay him $400 a month for joint custody and he still refuses to pay for anything. He still says I owe him half of everything. Furthermore, as a mom, I am accustomed to providing for the children. Making sure they are taken care of and have everything they need. Now he's supposed to do it but isn't. And I'm missing out on opportunities with my kids. My daughter will have prom this year but he should be the one buying the dress so it stands to reason he'll be the one to take her shopping. School clothes, hair cuts, etc. All the things I enjoy doing are no longer my job. I feel like I've been stripped of my motherhood.
on Aug. 13, 2014 at 11:55 PM