Actions Speak Louder than Words... just not in blended families?
There are a lot of women who say they aren't out to take or detract from mom, that they don't want to take her place, that they don't cross boundaries, they are just living their lives. They say this with their words.
But ... if you throw in their actions - going to places they know will upset the parent (dr./school/etc), trying to communicate with mom and getting upset when she doesn't want to deal with SM, acting as an equal when it comes to "time" (OUR time so mom can't see/talk to the kid even if the parent whose time it actually is is not there), attempting to make rules that dictate communication with the parent, overriding her when it comes to things that only affect the kid...
Do those actions not show the opposite of the words that so many throw around? That they aren't trying to take over?
I'm not talking house rules, once again, I don't care if you clean and cook and do laundry either. I mean things that have to do with the child/ren and/or mom only (communication being a big one).
I'm talking about if mom doesn't see the point in you showing up to ptconferences but you say you'll go where you want, or if you believe you have the right to go to appointments, any for the kid, that mom will be at just because dad says you should be there and you complain when mom nixes that (tells office not to talk to you, tells officials not to speak to you, etc)....
Do your actions, your insistence, speak louder than your words?
(This can apply to dad's and SFs, but they aren't here so it is angled at moms and SMs.)