My Step-son just turned 6. He decided on his birthday that he was all grown up and doesn't have to listen to anything anyone says. He's rude and disrespectful. His mother is in a master slave relationship. The stepfather is abusive, but passes it off as being the master. It's mostly verbal, but he has been trying to teach my stepson that the "man" makes sure that everything gets done and sits around while others do it.
Now, from what I understand, his bm does make him do chores, and he does get punished, but she doesn't follow through with any of it. When he comes here, like this weekend, we don't put up with his crap. But here is where my delima is. He started doing this crap when my Husband went to pick them up. He started snatching things and when asked said he was all grown up and didn't have to be polite. I really want to go into his room and pick up everything in there that is a toy and take it out. Should I? The other thing we are looking at doing is having him "work" to show him what "grown up" means. Right now, since he's being destructive, to pay back anything that he breaks or tries to break, he has to do a task and gets about a nickle per task to pay it back. We just started this last time so I don't know if that will change or not.
I'm at my wits end. I honestly don't want him to come here. He screws up the entire weekend and takes away from quality time that we could all be spending and it is really hard on his sister.
Any quality advice?