I have more reason than most to hate the BMs in my life.
I don't and won't. I may not like them, their choices or their impact on my life sometimes. But I don't hate them.
Hate takes up to much time and energy that I can use toward the kids, and my life.
They are the SKs mother's. Regardless of custody and legal issues... they are MOM!
I am a CSM and a BM. You could call me overstepping, BMs are not involved or are not allowed to be involved for legal. I function "like" a mom in our house. But I am not to 5 out of the 7 kids.
Don't hate. that impacts you. NOT the BM. You are wasting your time and energy. I vent I get irritated. But I don't hate.
Let your DH shield you from BM. Live your life!