I usually get along with her....BUT I AM PISSED (Kinda long)
The BM in my situation is still very much in love with my husband. But even with that we have been civil to each other. We hang out and take all the kids to do activities, so on and so forth. There is a lot of history between us, but since I am the primary care provider for my step son we have had to put a lot of this behind us. We had to. It's just what we had to do to make things work.
But the other day, she overstepped. BIG TIME. She started talking about having a baby. Mind you, my SS is non functional, non verbal ASD. He will need round the clock care for the rest of his life and I do most of it. I have him more than 85% of the time and do his schooling, his Dr appointments, his his therapies. All of it. So of course, I am thinking who the hell is going to watch this child? Well, she answered it. ME. Well, my husband and I have been looking into a surrogate for us, considering that I can't carry any more children. So, I brought that up. Well, she got very upset by that news. Told me it wasn't a good idea to think about having a child. I didn't even ask why because I was a little upset. So, she leaves. And I went and met my husband at work and he goes so, I got a text from Susie (name changed) and she asked me something. Being curious, because I usually do the communication between them too, I asked "Oh? What's that?" Well, she asked him for.....HIS SPERM!!!! The BM, asked MY HUSBAND for his SPERM!!!! My husband laughed at her and told her no. But, I'm beyond hurt and pissed. And I want to punch her in her face!!! Ugh!!! I don't think I even really needed advice just to vent.
So this is the End Of Rant. Thanks for listening. X)