My dad divorced my SM of 22 years late last year. I am 29, so she was pretty much around my entire life. I was pretty sad about the situation and although my dad didn't reiterate the story to me, I got the gist of what happened. My dad went through some life changing experiences over the course of four years- had major heart surgery, was diagnosed with COPD, changed his career due to these things- and decided he didn't like his life. He cheated on my SM with a woman he worked with, who was also married at the time. They decided to divorce their spouses and started dating.
I have not been very graceful with the situation. My dad always shit talked my mom for cheating on him, and then he goes and does the same thing to my SM, who WAS my second mom. I pretty much stopped talking to him for a while, because I didn't know what to say. My SM and I have remained in contact, and I think it bothers my dad a bit. He removed me as a friend on FB after seeing I still talked regularly with SM, and I thought it was pretty immature.
Anyhow, I haven't been accepting of the new woman. She is only a few years younger, but I feel like she has made my dad into a wannabe and he is VERY preachy now. I am not a religious person, and did not grow up in a religious family, and I am fine with this. But since dad started dating his GF, he started going to church and is always telling me, "YOU NEED TO GET GOD IN YOUR LIFE!"
A couple months ago he announced he was bringing GF to visit (he lives in Arizona, I live in Michigan) his family and I wasn't too happy. She tried to be friends with me, but also deleted me after seeing I have a close relationship with my SM. I got very defensive and decided it was best I stayed away because while I didn't rub it in their faces, they obviously take issue that I am still close to the woman I have called SM for 22 years! To me, this speaks volumes about their maturity!
So anyway, they visited and DH and I got married on August 9 and they were there. My dad was upset I didn't have him walk me down the aisle (there was no aisle- we got married on my grandpa's front lawn and my grandpa drove me in on a decked out golf cart), then he was upset I didn't have a person of religion marry us (my original maid of honor was ordained and did the ceremony). My dad was a different person completely. :-/ I get he had some life changing experiences, but I don't recognize this man. He was very concerned with things that never used to matter to him- clothing, religion, different lifestyles- and because this new GF is VERY DIFFERENT from my SM, I feel like he has changed to suit her and he is not the dad I remember.
I'm trying to be understanding because he's had a tough couple four years, but, the spoiled ass brat inside of me wants to tell him to lose the woman because she's just going to cheat on him like she did her husband. Being a SK sometimes never gets easier....